​How to balance motherhood and career?

The modern world is so unpredictable that sometimes a woman has to choose between going to a cinema with her children and her husband or a business dinner. Unfortunately, it is not possible to educate a child and build a successful career for all women.

How it can be, if your baby is still very young and needs a mother’s affection and at the same time, the work that can not be left without attention?

Of course, you have no right to infringe the child in rights. This is the most lovely person for you and he must receive a daily dose of maternal affection and attention. And his problems should be for you above all. Especially when your baby is still very young, and does not know how to express his feelings in words.

But to lock yourself in four walls and wait until the child becomes independent, is also not necessary. Firstly, you can completely forget all the accumulated work experience, and it is not known how long you will still feel, that you are extremely needed for your child – 10, 20, and even all 30 years.

Time management will come to the aid of young mothers and promising careerists. In this term is the ability to organize your free time in such a way that it is enough for everything – the child, work, personal life. We will discuss the main aspects of family time management.

1. You must skillfully manage your time. Do not handle all your household chores by yourself. Attract all family members. Husband can help you cook dinner. Of course, you will do it faster and better, but let the rest of the family participate not only as “spectators” in your home performance, but also as direct participants in the daily performance.

2. Do not do the same job every day. You can go shopping once a week. Leave for the husband such trifles as buying fresh bread or milk. You can also erase things once a week. Here, too, a huge role of the assistant is played a washing machine.

3. Accustom all family members to clean up after themselves. So, coming home from work you will not need to collect socks or toys scattered on the floor. For children as an incentive may be a minor encouragement in the form of sweets or tickets to the zoo.

4. Do not neglect the help of grandmothers or babysitters. Of course, the child should in no case grow up without mother’s weasel. But during the reporting period or important meetings with partners, grandmother’s help will be a bit of a help. Yes, and you will be sure that your child is warmly dressed, fed and homework done right.

The first step to marital happiness.

What is the basis of marital happiness? Many believe – the understanding, love to each other, the ability to build harmonious relationships. It’s important, but it is only catalysts.

The basis of marital happiness – two people, happy and successful on their life’s journey.

If they are initially happy and successful, love will make them even happier. Love – is a powerful catalyst that most strongly reveals the inner world.

There is only one reason that makes people unhappy – it is fear of liability.

See how interesting it works.

Have you ever been responsible for some of your misdeeds or mistakes? What memories do you have about this situation? It is unlikely that the punishment for a misdemeanor has brought you pleasure and you have the desire to be back to this situation.

80% of people do not want to get back to this situation and either start to adjust themselves under the generally accepted standards, or are trying to shift responsibility to other people and circumstances. They actively convince all that – the circumstances. And finally, themselves begin to trust in it, getting in their own trap.

Small salary – blame of the government and the economic situation. Poor health – bad ecology, doctors do not know how to treat. There is no happiness in the family – the husband is a goat. Children are rude – blame of the school and the company with which the child is contacted, etc.

It all began with the banal “it’s not me.” In order to avoid responsibility for your actions, you completely crossed out your bright and rich way of life, replacing it by ordinary gray existence.

Fear of responsibility leads to the fact that a person becomes passive and loses ability to manage his life.

Can he be happy? – What happiness, when a man betrayed his goals and lost himself?

He may have a lot of money, he may have all the trappings of a happy and successful man, but inside sits a state of dissatisfaction, because he knows that wants something different in his life.

Building a happy family life, full of joy, success, starts with disclosure of yourself. First, you should put in order your own life, determine your true desires, to set goals and start to go.

This is an important point – to reveal yourself and begin your journey before to build family relationships. If you are still in search of your loved one, it will allow to attract someone who will share your interests, ideas, desires.

If you will be realized, purposeful and will realize your dreams, this power will increase many times, when you begin to live together.

The crisis of family relationships.

According to researches of sociologists and family counselors, every family goes through several stages of development, and the transition from one to another, usually accompanied by a crisis.

It is believed that the complications of family life primarily cause household difficulties. But apart from household difficulties, there are many reasons that could provoke a crisis in the family, at any stage of its existence.

Firstly, problems in family life may start when one spouse is going through his own psychological crisis, such as a middle age crisis. Reconsidering his life, feeling dissatisfaction, a man decides to change everything, including his family life.

Secondly, any of the events, listed below, entail a change in the family structure. For example, the birth of a child.

In addition, the cause of the crisis for the couple become problems at work, problems in relationships with relatives, the changes in financial position (in the direction of its deterioration, and in the direction of improvement), moving to another city or country. And, of course, more serious stress-factors – serious illness, death, war, loss of a job, the birth of children with disabilities.

7 dangerous symptoms:

1. Reducing of the desire of the spouses to intimacy;

2. All matters relating to the upbringing of children, provoke quarrels and recriminations;

3. The couple do not have the same views on the most important issues for them (relationships with relatives and friends, the future plans, the distribution of incomes, etc.);

4. Husband and wife are poorly understood (or do not understand) each other’s feelings;

5. Almost all the actions and words of a partner cause irritation;

6. One of the couple believes that forced all the time to yield;

7. There is no need to share with a partner their problems and joys.